First time gay
My(35M) first gay sexual encounter is coming up. What should I know?
February 5, 2020 11:10 PM Subscribe
Hello. I am a 35 year old cis man, and I've been only with women up to now. I've always considered myself enthusiastically hetero.
A year or so ago, I first experienced the pleasure of anal sex (i.e. having my butt being played with, penetrated with a finger etc) with my female partners.
Since then, I have been fantasising strongly about being penetrated by a real penis. I've begun experiencing some attraction towards men, and (for the first time) been aroused by gay porn. I really want to be fucked by a guy!
So long story short, I've met a kind, gentle gay dude who knows about this history of mine and is interested in creature my partner in this adventure. The big evening is coming up soon. I'm really excited but really nervous! I realize I should try to be spontaneous but I have so many questions! What are things I should be ke
As a gay man, you may be surprised to hear that one of the biggest hurdles I faced was going into a gay bar for the first time.
At 17-years-old, I was in awe of my straight mates. They’d been wandering into bars and nightclubs for the last year with the only threat of getting asked for age identification.
At 17 years antique, my straight mates were not only getting drunk most Friday and Saturday nights but were boasting about sleeping around with members of the antonym sex without any concern. Whether they’d slept with many of those they mentioned was open to debate.
At 17 years mature, it was against the law for me to sleep with a person of the same sex. If I boasted about it, I could find myself into trouble. The law stated that, for my safety, sex remained on hold until I reached 21.
Of course, I overlooked that particular part of the law. Appreciate any red-blooded male at 17, my hormones made my brain think of little else but wanting to (putting it mildly) get laid.
By the moment I reached my 19th birthday, I already had what I had considered a boyfriend. He was over the age of 21 and thought I was too.
On one particular, wet Saturday evening, I found myself sitting i
Dad died when I was six. The rabbi who lived in the apartment below took over for him. I’m sure he wanted to do Mom. They packed us off to an evil Hasidic summer camp where everyone made fun of us because we didn’t grasp their crazy prayers. My brother was four. We would secretly meet in the woods, hug each other and cry. We couldn’t understand why our father died and our mother sent us to this terrible place. I learned to hate all religion and still do.
Mom was a dark-haired, curvaceous looker, juicy, and in her prime. She liked sex but decided that all men had to pay for it. The butcher brought steaks; the florist, flowers; the bagel man left fresh steaming steaming bagels by our door every morning for months. Leon, the ice cream man left ice cream. My younger brother and I were quickly dispatched to get the stuff into the house, so they couldn’t see Mom. And not to forget Abe, the jeweler, who brought, well, jewels. They all tried to get inside. Some did. When Mom met the man who brought it all, she married him.
We lived in Borough Park, in Brooklyn. Until I ran away, I thought everyone in the world was either Jewish or Italian. I was intimidated by all the dark, Brooklyn-rough I
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a shielded and respectful way
To begin, I’d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to comprehend that you can endeavor new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who yearn to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the other side of trans. We speak trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and tip about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are feeling
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